Wednesday, 18 September 2013

I Passed!



Yes, I passed my first year of university. I feel so relieved!

Thanks to everyone who reads and comments for the support! I appreciate you guys and am very grateful for the support!

Kamille

Saturday, 14 September 2013

Does Failing Make You Stronger?

Just a warning to readers, this post made me feel depressed while writing it so I'm going to guess it may make you depressed to read it.

I'm guessing you've heard of the saying that 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'.

I've had people telling me this way too many times. And that's because failure and I are well acquainted.

I failed to achieve the grades I was originally predicted in secondary school. And then I failed my first year of college and had to join another college. I then failed to get the grades I needed for university but by some stupidly divine luck, I managed to get onto a Law degree. And now, I may have failed Law school.

So yeah, I've gone through a lot of failure. Include my failure to get a job which is like the cherry on the icing.

This got me thinking of whether failure was making me stronger.

My failures in secondary school and college could have made me stronger. One thing those failures did was bring me back down to earth. My standards in everything dropped after that failure. Suddenly, my ridiculously high standards were no longer getting me down. And that was great. For a time.

But they also damaged my confidence and self-esteem. And during that time, I battled with really bad anxiety problems and apparently depression.

So the way I see it, no, I did not get stronger from failure. But I did get up and not for reasons that you may think.

As an Asian woman, my options were very limited:
1) get an education and a skilled and respected job or
2) get married and have kids.

Being only 20, option 2 did not appeal to me and so I decided to venture into university. Plus, I had no clue where I wanted to go in life. Nor did I know what I wanted to do with it. So naturally, Law school felt like a good option.

Law school is always a good option. Or at least that's what I thought. It's a good degree to have and it is one of those degrees that is very well respected. So I thought I was doing a good thing.

And now I'm here.

I failed a module in my first year. Yes. I failed one module and because of it, I may fail the whole thing altogether.

I remember being over the moon this time last year when I was chuffed to be going to university. I was excited and thought it would be the best time of my life ever. But my problems with anxiety did not get better. I had to spend a whole year trying to deal with it and because I was so behind with uni work, I didn't have time to go see the counsellor who was busy and struggled to fit me into his schedule. So I didn't go to my sessions. I had tutorial work to complete anyway.

And I never told anyone about my problems. If there is one major thing I have learnt from this experience, it is that my previous failures and problems taught me nothing. I have continued my self-destructive behaviour of not admitting my problems and asking for help into adulthood.

It is only half a month until I am due to go back to university for my second year and I still don't know what I got for my first year. I don't even know if I'm going. And if I'm not going, I have no idea what to do instead. I'll be back to square one. No, I'll be back to square zero. At least when you're on square one, you're going somewhere and are on a path.

And this may be my last post as a university student. Which sucks. University has been a better experience than school and college.

On the outside, I appeared to have gotten stronger but inside, I feel weaker.

I think people react differently to failure. It may be motivation for some people to get back up again. For some people it may be a disaster and yet they'll get back up again, not due to being stronger. And for some people it'll crush them like a mountain and they won't get back up. I feel like I'm between group 2 and 3.

I'll end the post here but I'll update again as soon as I can on whether or not I get into university. I hope I do. *fingers crossed*

Kamille :D

Thursday, 5 September 2013

Book Love: The Secret Keeper by Kate Morton

I'm back! Sort of. It feels weird to have not blogged in so long. It used to feel natural and now it feels well, alien.

So I just finished reading the Secret Keeper by Kate Morton just this week and I have to say, this is my favourite book for adults, ever. Here's the UK cover which is really beautiful!


I do judge books by covers. I know I probably shouldn't be saying that but I do. It's the only way for me to measure my interest in a book while I'm looking at a whole shelf of them without picking them up individually and reading the blurb.

The story is divided over different time periods: a little in the 1930s, the 1940s, a bit in the 1950's, the 1960s and the modern day. I can't say I particularly enjoyed the different time periods but it was a mystery so somewhat of a requirement otherwise the clues would have all been revealed at the wrong times!

I liked the characters, especially Vivien, Jimmy and Laurel. I didn't like Dorothy as much as I did in the beginning of the novel but if you read the book you will know why. Her character is one that really changes and not in a good way.

The plotline is (no specific spoilers here) about Laurel who witnesses something shocking in the 1960s which haunts her to the modern day when she finally decides to investigate into a family member's past in World War 2 London where Dorothy, Vivien and Jimmy meet.

I'm not going to mention any more of the plot or I'll be giving away juicy plot turns that were extremely well thought out. I don't think I've ever read a book that have kept me guessing as much as this book.

Kate Morton's writing is beautiful and descriptive. You actually feel like you are there but it can be very tempting to skip the detail and get to the action. I had to force myself to keep going back.

And the ending is just divine. I never would have guessed it.

I've never truly loved a book as much as this. Adult books lose their sense of magic, love and dreams. The Secret Keeper is a 'grown-up' book which has the atmosphere of a children's book. I think that's why I loved it so much.

I think I'm getting fangirl-y over this book.

Kamille